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“One night a father overheard his son pray: Dear God, Make me the kind of man my Daddy is. Later that night, the Father prayed, Dear God, Make me the kind of man my son wants me to be.”
39 Things To Never Say To Your Son Before He Grows Up and Places You In A Retirement Home. OrealE? Yes “Oh Real-ly!”
- Just give up or quit.
- I didn’t do it (and you did).
- You’re a follower.
- You are never going to be nothing.
- Get out of my house.
- You’re going to be just like me (a nobody).
- I wish you were never born.
- You should be this or that in life.
- You’re going to have all the ladies (or men).
- I promise to do (but you don’t).
- I’d rather you get high in the house with me where you are safe than in the streets where you may get hurt.
- I can’t do it for you today maybe tomorrow. (When you know you can do it today).
- You wanna be like me?
- You’re dumb or stupid.
- I don’t love you.
- You can’t do anything right.
- I hate you.
- You’ll never amount to anything.
- You’re not my son.
- Shut up. I don’t want to hear what you have to say.
- Stop it. Real men don’t cry.
- I cannot change.
- You have it under control.
- Nothing.
- Your mother is worthless.
- I can’t trust you.
- Don’t call him a punk.
- Don’t curse at him, around him, or at all.
- Go get me a beer or bring me my whisky.
- It’s alright to drink.
- I give up.
- You’re wrong.
- What he wants to hear.
- It’s okay to use violence against violence.
- There is no God.
- Do as I say not as I do.
- Ask your mother.
- You’re a mamma’s boy.
- You make me sick.
He will never know what it means to win. Nor will he accomplish his goals.
That’s lying.
Some of the greatest leaders have been followers. Learning to follow is the first step towards learning to lead. So don’t discourage your son instead encourage him.
You break his motivation to become something.
He may never come back.
He could program himself to become a nobody because of low self-esteem and mental abuse.
He may rebel and have resentment towards you.
What you think he should be is not what he may turn out to be.
That child might grow up to be a womanizer or (man user) and get hurt.
He’ll count on it and if you don’t come through his feelings will be hurt. Broken promises hurt.
You are enabling them to use drugs and get addicted to a lifestyle that ends in institutions or death.
Tomorrow is never promised.
He can be whatever he want’s to be and the best that ever done it with positive reinforcement.
He could believe that and not try to improve himself.
It will hurt him and it is not true.
You would be setting limitations on him.
It will hurt his feelings. He loves you.
It is discouraging.
You know he is.
It can make him closed and unwilling to make suggestions.
It can cause him to hold in his emotions.
You can.
You don’t.
If you don’t have nothing to say at least say something positive. Talk to your son.
It confuses him. Besides she is a loving person and gave him life.
The truth is you can’t trust yourself.
It will make him feel less than.
It would make him feel that it’s alright to do it.
He might try it sooner or later.
It can lead to a lot of problems.
It will leave a permanent mark in his mind to not complete things.
Many times we say this without explaining the reason why.
His values will be low.
This is not how problems are solved. It’s how problems evolve.
He may never develop faith.
He is always going to do as you do.
A man needs a man to grow.
Remember he is your boy too.
He will feel like anything he does won’t matter.
